I conduct classes with the title, Shining Your Light, because I believe so strongly in this message: You are a light being and have a light that is unique to you. When you stay buried under all the details of life, your light dims, and eventually, is not even distinguishable in the existence you’ve carved out. Truth is, at times it feels more like “existence” than living. It is understandable that, because your life is teeming with duties and tasks, you don’t realize that you have forgotten to tend to the oil lamp and really live the life you want.
However, this lamp is what both lights your way and guides others. Truthfully, living a life you love requires less effort. Guiding others comes more when you live in the beautiful vibration that is you. It is the energy that attracts what and who you want directly to you. Living in that vibration is vital to embracing what you want and doing so means you are in the flow.
When you step into the flow, you begin to develop the skills it takes to lead your life, instead of react to life. You work on those skills and deliberately proceed as an active participant in your journey. You influence people by the way your energy shows up to others.
You have an energy field around you that acts like a magnet: you pull in those who are attracted to your vibration because they tend to vibrate in a similar way. You also repel those who are not attracted to your vibration, because it is not like theirs. The same happens with opportunities in your life – you attract or repel opportunities because of your energy field, which is part of what I am referring to when I talk about your light.
Part of the issue is that we all have default tendencies. The best way to describe them is in relation to computer science. A default is “a preset setting or value.” When you behave by default it is because it’s where you are programmed to respond, without thinking about it.
Some default tendencies are helpful, like driving a car, remembering to brush your teeth or even saying, “be careful” when your kids go out at night. They’re “reflexive.” Others are not.
Default tendencies are also related to what I talked about earlier – inherited values. The good news is that this default can be consciously reprogrammed.
Your default tendencies are created by messages that were dumped into your subconscious mind in a way that now has become fairly insidious. Small comments like “what’s wrong with you” or “why can’t you be more like your sister” or “sit down and stop asking questions” sent the message that you are not good enough. They also tell you that your value is linked to your behavior.
So, you may keep trying to prove your value in ways you are unaware of. Perhaps you can’t accept a compliment; you get angry when someone slights you; you take things very personally because you can’t put them in perspective. Maybe you default to always apologizing – if anything goes wrong. Even if it is not your fault, you say, “I’m sorry.” Your default is your subconscious talking–your inherited values and belief systems that keep you stuck. Your false belief system. The “story” you inherited. It worked for you when you were younger, and you’ve adopted it subconsciously as an adult.
Values are also part of the story you inherited, and were impressed upon you at an early age. Often, you act by default based on those values, without consciously thinking about it. When was the last time you sat down and asked yourself what your own values are? We all are basically good people, and tend to value integrity, honesty, kindness etc. But what is important to you? Is it passion? Creativity? Drive? Financial independence? Growth? Maybe you don’t care about timeliness but really value spontaneity? You don’t know until you explore for yourself.
Your default tendencies also show up in behaviors. A simple example is if you grow up in a household full of arguing, your default tendency may be, when you want to prove your point, to argue. (Also, you may feel the need to prove your point!) It might not occur to you that perhaps this isn’t the best way to a) get what you want and b) solve the problem. In fact, argument usually completely denies a solution or compromise!
So, your light is dimmed when you are not living your authentic life, according to your values, your belief system, your inner knowing that is yearning to come out. Default tendencies are there to make life easier, but, it takes conscious effort to choose which ones to keep, and which ones to let go of. When you don’t let go of the defaults that are not serving you, you stay buried. All of the inauthentic pieces create a blanket that covers your light.
So what are some of your defaults? Where in your life are you reactive instead of thoughtfully proactive? Where do you get buried in the details of your life? Start the process by just observing your own behaviors, asking yourself questions about what you value and believe in order to start removing what blankets your light. It’s a process, but one so very worth doing.
AFFIRMATION OF THE WEEK:
Today I choose to live my life proactively. I observe what I am reacting based on old stories and when I am choosing to embody a higher vibration. More and more, I realize that guilt and fear have no place in my life of high vibration.
